3 Decades later…..
Do you recognise that old familiar feeling? what is it, sadness, frustration, overwhelm?
The truth is we feel emotional pain for a good reason.
P.A.I.N is an acronym for Please Acknowledge Information Now. Our bodies are in constant communication with us and yet we are not taught to read these signals, we usually just try to get away from them, some of us stuff them down, believe me, that takes a lot of energy that could be put to better use. Some of us act out and leave a trail of devastation along the way. Some of us use addictions, or buying “stuff” We do all this for one reason, RELIEF! Every action we take is because we BELIEVE it will make us feel better….
This has been my journey, to understand the realms of emotions and the vital role they play in our lives. Is there such a thing as inner peace? Can you create it at will
How can anyone remain calm with what is going on around them? Sure if you could sit on a mountaintop and chant, that may work for a while until you step back into the “real” world. Same stresses, worries and challenges and all the while losing the energy battle to keep up the facade that all is well.
Maybe you feel guilty for wanting more? Surely that is selfish? No, it isn’t! That is how we grow. Anything with life is either growing or dying. To desire is to live, to grow, to evolve its what were designed to do. (caveat here! if it is an aligned desire)
As already mentioned, what we really want is to feel good. Sadly, unless we have awareness in the moment and the strategies to “do” something different we will repeat the same old ways we are conditioned with. Can you imagine having a choice of how you feel, regardless of what is going on around you…?
You can’t control others and some circumstances but you can control how they affect you. Imagine being more content so that you can enjoy what you already have got. More calm so that you don’t burst a blood vessel. Imagine feeling safe so that you can explore and be adventurous, taking gutsy action, the right action! And all with a big dose of self-compassion and understanding. This is all within your reach. You will be pleased to know you already have the tools and the technology. The challenge up to now is that we often are using the wrong tools for the wrong job. I know I have. For over two decades I have been seeking and searching delving into many schools of thought around personal development. I’ve even walked on hot coals; yep mind over matter.
All this searching started for me when I became a mother, terrified of “getting it wrong” I enrolled in parenting classes. I soon realised the power of the labels we use on ourselves and others. Like any parent, I wanted for my children above all else to grow up happy. This led me to study counselling, but I really felt ‘you don’t heal a scab by picking it’. Although counselling has its place for me as I ‘didn’t have any issues’ that I was conscious of, it was not for me.
I then turned my focus to life coaching because it’s about looking towards the future and what we DO want. Then came a variety of tools… NLP, EFT, Matrix Reimprinting, Bach remedies…. the list goes on!
They say “when the student is ready, the teacher will appear”. I find this to be true. So there I was in my local Sainsburys, waiting to be served when a bookcase displaying secondhand books the scouts were selling caught my attention. One book was calling me, I read the blurb and risked the humongous 50 pence charge for this ‘Enneagram’ book. I devoured that book in one sitting and found myself in those pages… it really was an OH SHIT moment. The me that I didn’t know existed was exposed. What was fascinating to realise is that what I had always deemed my “positive traits” were, in fact, my gift and my challenge!!
…And so my focus changed from wanting to be a great parent to wanting to be a great me; not least because through this awareness I could be the best parent “I” could be. I recognised how much influence my parents had had on me and where I had turned away from my truth because of this. I found an understanding of why my brother and I have very different perceptions of our parents and the world at large, even though we are from the same gene pool and lived in the same environment. Make no mistake, the Enneagram is profound, it is the map of how you are “doing” yourself now, habitually. How do you improve?
Here is the challenge. We try to think our way out and through situations, agreed? Until now so much store has been put on the head brain. Science now proves we have 3 brains, yes 3! one in our head one in our heart and one in our gut and different personality styles use these brains in different sequences and patterns. To take the right action, or non-action can only come from wise decisions when all three brains are aligned. This is what I can teach you for yourself or train you to coach others. The world needs us all to come from our place of wisdom. As Gandhi said “you must be the change you want to see in the world” your world!! The science behind mBraining has been gathered from specialists in their field. This is a synthesis of cutting-edge knowledge that backs up ancient wisdom, it certainly backs up the Enneagram. Would you like me to show you how?