Good Enough Mother
The information we never had
Helping mothers through personality profiling, ancient wisdom and neuroscience
The Missing Curriculum
Motherhood is a gamechanger, would you agree?
Suddenly you are responsible for another life, did you feel equipped?
Whatever your childhood was like, NOTHING is the same now and still, times are changing.
What doesn’t change is you! as Mother you are the kingpin in your childs world not least because you birthed them, in so doing you past on to them your genetic heritage.
Can I ask did you feel seen and heard as a child? Do you recognise yourself as one of a kind and valuable?
Most, if not all of us feel quite the opposite. In fact feeling not good enough is common and something we admit only in spaces we feel our vulnerabilty will be met with sensativity.
Our children will be our learning ground, they highlight the emotional challenges we have yet to resolve. We evolve our world through relating to others!
We then send our kids to school, they have to conform and be like everyone else. We grade them! as if this is a measure of who they are.
The focus is way too much on passing exams for subjects the children themselves have very little if any interest in.
We all just want to ‘fit in’ to feel safe, when we don’t, the exclusion can feel life-threatening. That isn’t an exaggeration, we are often traumatised by events in our childhood, events that filter into our adult lives both consciously and unconsciously in our behaviours and actions.
As parents, we see and often judge our children against their peers especially the test results as this is a measure of who they really are, it is not!
Each and every one of us is gifted in our own unique way.
When do we start to acknowledge that?
Often we don’t, we half live, yet ask ANY parent what they want for their children and the stock answer is “for them to be happy” What does that take?
The truth is there is no such thing as a happy person. Happiness, like any emotion is transient, it comes and goes. Learning to ride the waves of emotional life is not currently on the curriculum and yet it is the very subject that can make the difference to your levels of joy! Joy is not a response that external events can touch, it is who you are when you know yourself deeply.
When we address the emotions of a situation we can learn from the event and not need to carry it forward with us.
Every addiction in life is behaviour that masks our unmet emotional needs.
To be seen and heard is the most powerful way to support anyone including our children. As parents, we will raise our children with a blend of what we did or did not like about our own childhood and what we observe to be the social norms of today and most importantly HOW WE STAYED CONNECTED our personality.
Our self-concept is the key to everything, it runs our emotions our thinking and our behaviour.
Truly knowing ourselves is paramount to all realtionships, it starts with us.
Your neurology is your personality others are wired differently! Not knowing this challenges us especially over time
- 1 in 8 of our children are diagnosed with mental health issues
- 1 in 3 adults have mental health challenges attributed to childhood experiences
- Depression is the predominant mental health problem worldwide followed by anxiety
Truly knowing yourself is your greatest gift to yourself, your loved ones and beyond. It can bring you peace of mind and guilt free parenting.
No one is broken! We are all doing our best with where we are.
Coaching has been on the rise for decades, for good reason, we get to look at how we can evolve over time in a way of our choosing but we are often looking at the destination and rarely the starting point, who are you and how do you function? Why do you even want to set goals?
You may be pleased to know you really do have all your answers (so do your children)
Parenting becomes a lot less daunting when you recognise you are a guide and not resposible for your childrens outcomes, phew! respect the journey, ride the waves and grow together
I am not a guru of any kind! I am here to share my experiences to save you time money and pain. I can walk with you on this journey of self-exploration.
One promise I can make is that you will like what you find. You are already Perfect, you were born that way and so are your children!
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